Among rape survivors, a tale of sisters 

The energy in the room is light and there is laughter. There are no hints that the young women gathered in this space are anything but ordinary. They are relaxed and open. Until the conversation turns to forgiveness. 

The girls suddenly flounder. Smiles give way to knitted brows and slumped shoulders. 

Now, the room aches with the collective pain of the past. This is a telling reminder that they are, in fact, extraordinary. 

Both raped by stepfathers

In this group, brought together by Eve for Life, many are survivors of sexual violence. Some are HIV positive, some are young mothers. 

They are at a yearly retreat that is part of a long-term therapeutic programme of healing and empowerment for Eve for Life’s young clients. 

Malia, age 14 and Alicia, age 15 (names changed) are among Eve’s newer recruits. They are sisters who live with a sordid family secret: they were both raped at age 9 by their respective step-fathers. Alicia contracted HIV as a result. 

Mother sided with daughters’ abusers

The sisters’ relationship with their mother is deeply fraught with struggle: she has created a family of six children – each with a different father –  which she cannot afford. She mistreats them and is often absent.  

There are also deep scars of distrust. Their mother disbelieved them both when they told her about being raped. She continued relationships with the men who abused her daughters, dependent on them for food and money. 

Alicia kept her rape a secret from everyone for four years after it happened. 

Painful family secret

“I was angry. But my step-father was taking care of the family, and I didn’t want to stop going to school,” she says. “And even if I told my mother it wouldn’t change anything, she wouldn’t care.”

When Alicia was 12, she developed a lump under her throat. She asked her mother repeatedly to take her to the doctor. It took two years before her mother complied. 

“The results came back and I was HIV positive,” says Alicia. “My mother cried, she broke down. But she still communicated with my step-father. She told people I slept with him for money.”

Nobody supported them, believed them

“It broke me down bad, bad, bad,” she says. “I went from being 1st in my class to 31st and then last. My grades went all the way down from 90s and 80s.”

While Alicia slipped at school, Malia was reeling in a different way from the shock of her assault.  

“I never expected it,” Malia says. “He said he would tell my mother that I was the one who forced myself on him. I was scared. I think that is why I am so silent now, because if I say anything I feel like people will not believe me.”

Rebuilding lives with Eve for Life

Nowadays, the sisters are more hopeful. They have spent the last several months being supported and encouraged by the team of life coaches, mentors and fellow survivors at Eve for Life. 

Eve is teaching me how to move on,” says Malia. “How to live with the fact of what happened and push forward. They teach you to try your best not to step back, and how to be happy.” 

Despite attending school irregularly, Malia is determined to do well. “My goal is to get a 1 in CXC Math. I want to get a good education. I can do it if I put my mind to it.” 

Shared strength for each other

Alicia is also ambitious. “I find strength because I know I want to achieve everything – have a car, a house and take care of my sisters and my brothers.” 

Eve has helped me build a lot of confidence in myself,” she says. “They have taught me that I have to try and help myself.”

“I just have to be strong for my sister, and she has to be strong for me.”



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  1. It’s so sad, I have been a victim of abuse, it’s awful it’s something you will never forget. Because of that I can’t have the desire for men, am ashamed. I fantasize everyday that am a virgin n the right man will come n he will be the one n only. Am in a relationship but am not honest enough to tell my partner. What happen.

  2. Why the hell the mothers won’t take full responsibility for their children and stop allowing the animals who call them selves man to be going around destroying the innocent children life.They rape kill sacrifice all in the name of self.mothers you are too lickie lickie you need to stop supporting wrongs and protect your children.

    1. All Men are not Animal. It is being Cruelty and Brutality. But biologically Men are Animal. Why you termed Men as Animal? Have you analyzed the life of a female-cat. Whenever they are in mating season, they go from one male-cat to other. Same case of lion as they are big cats. So, once the male-cat feels that the cubs or kittens are not from him then they kill them. So, they were raped by different step-fathers because their mother is dependent on Men and their relations are not proper and move around Sex-and-Money. So, they are not their Father but Biological-Father because their Sperm being used in their birth. Father being responsible under some Marriage Contract. Otherwise, life being like Animals living in a Jungle. Everyone must enjoy a Social Life with all of the responsibilities of good Citizen and ultimately good Human.

  3. Frightening and painful to read these stories, having come face to face with different victims of abuse. But always Eve for Life and Unicef gives me hope that someone cares. I just feel for those still suffering, and wonder how will they be rescued. Thanks Eve for Life, Unicef.